Superman had kryptonite, Aquaman was lack of water, Green Lantern was yellow, Shazam was saying his own name… all things that caused them pain…
Mine is comparison. I compare myself to other trainers – I compare myself to the abilities of others or their highlight reels, a.k.a. social media.
Do you know what my word for 2019 is? CONFIDENCE… and I have not felt less confident than I do right now. And here is the kicker – it is not because others have it together and I don’t. It is not because I have a lack of knowledge.
It is because MY priorities are out of whack. It is because I have compared myself to what others have going on… It is because I am having a hard time prioritizing important things in my life – because I am so focused on scrolling through other peoples, businesses (etc) highlight reel…
A friend was over and was watching me look at my phone and mentioned to me, “You scroll so fast, do you even stop to look at anything?” And here is why I don’t – and it is a personal issue… if I stop for a certain moment of time to look at someone else’s snap shot of their life, then I start to compare and over analyze my own life… and the standards I have placed on myself…
So this is what I need to do for ME… My Husband, My Daughter, My Family, My Friends… I am taking a BREAK from social media. I am taking a BREAK from things that DRAIN my energy.
I will still be around to answer emails, answer texts, answer calls… but as far as social media goes – you wont see me… I just need this time to recharge, revamp, and restructure ME.
If you need me – I am STILL HERE FOR YOU… firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here is the truth about my transformation – piece by piece… and total honesty!
This picture was taken while I was on the phone with my mom telling her that we were no our way to the hospital – actually we were on our way to the food court at the mall because I knew I was not going to get anything but ice chips for a while and that was just not going to give me the energy to push… So I had a Cheese Steak and fries… and it was GLORIOUS! I didn’t even feel bad about it, even when I expelled it later right before I was operated on… #noregrets!
I was the heaviest I had ever been… but HELLO! I had a little girl in my belly that was growing! Even at two weeks early she was still over 7 lbs! I can tell you that I ENJOYED my pregnancy! I ate what I wanted, when I wanted… which to be honest consisted of Whataburger cheese burgers and small Dairy Queen Heath Bar Blizzards (there was one that had just opened on the way home… it was dangerous). In this picture I believe I was 185… I think – I don’t remember exactly – and to be honest… I still don’t care! I did make fun of myself that I weighed the same as my husband and I am only 5 feet tall…
This was January 1 2017. Still swollen – but slowly getting down… I was back to work full time, my mom was able to watch my sweet baby during the day – and I was well on my way to getting back into shape. (Notice I said nothing about my “body back” or anything of that nature… This was the time that I also decided that I was going to start my Personal Training Certification – here is the kicker – I had a 3 month old… maybe not the smartest decision I have made – but there I was – FULL STEAM AHEAD!
Here I am feeling a little discouraged. Not feeling like the progress I was making was showing. Self doubt was creeping in. I took a week or two off. Gave myself a mental break from the work out schedule I had created for myself. With being a new mom, working full time, and studying to be a NASM CPT – my time was stretched so thin!
I did not let myself stay in a funk for long. I did get back to it. Reorganized my “life” schedule so that I could make the most of my awake hours and get as much as I could accomplished. The more I was able to accomplish – the more I felt like myself again. Cleaning House, getting a load of laundry done (washed, dried, and folded/hung-up), finishing a chapter in my study, fixing a homemade dinner – all were accomplishments!
I learned to be nice to myself. Life is not about being rigid with a routine. Sure routines help me and routines are nice to have – but I stopped beating myself up. I stopped worrying about if things didn’t get done according to my schedule. If I was not a size I thought I should be by now. I started enjoying the process.
This is me now. I am over 2 years past giving birth – and how did I do it?
No “special supplements”
No dieting – I literally have eaten what I want… but I regulate my portions
No frozen or prepackaged “lean meals”
No rigid workouts
No counting calories
No weighing weekly… I literally MAYBE weighed myself once a month…
No gimmicks WHATSOEVER!
Here is the deal – if you want something to stick – you have to make a lifestyle out of it. You have to make a choice to make SOME changes… and not to change it all at once. You have to learn to live life in a healthy way – not a RESTRICTIVE WAY!
I wrote all my own workouts – I ate intuitively (that is more for another post) – I LIVED LIFE! I enjoyed cake, drinks with friends, chips and queso… I learned how to buy groceries and make food that tasted great and was healthy too! I CHANGED MY MINDSET – and it does not happen overnight, it is a slow process… but WHO SAID YOU HAVE TO DO IT ACCORDING TO ANYONE ELSE’S TIME LINE? (Unless your doctor is advising you – that is a different story – always listen to your doctor or get a second opinion etc.)
Bottom line – I learned how to be HAPPY… I found my HAPPY place…
And if you are an EVERYDAY kinda WOMAN like me… I can help you… YOU can FIND your happy too! I WANT you to be HAPPY! I WANT YOU TO BE WHOLE!
Reach out to me and let’s help you get stated RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE NOW! Don’t wait – your time is too precious to spend any more of it unhappy!
XOXO Meggs (PS I am now 123.8 – smaller than I was before I was pregnant…)
Music often reflects how we feel and how we think – this week some of my favorites on my playlist include the following:
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Yesterday (January 7, 2019) I had to let go of my dog Rosco. It was unexpected, very confusing, and very tragic.
To many people (who are obviously not pet people) pets are just pets… they have expiration dates and they can move on and move along… but for others such as myself – there is such a huge void in my heart… I am blessed to have one more dog in the house – if we didn’t have Freddie – I am not sure I would be able to compose myself today.
You see – Rosco has been there for our family through it ALL! He showed up on our doorstep (thanks to my brother, who had already called and asked me if I wanted the puppy and I said no – and showed up KNOWING that I could not resist those floppy ears and sweet personality) and was immediately family. He was so love and so sweet!
He was there through some really rough patches for us – our two losses, our financial struggles, our successes, our move, our baby girl, finding Freddie, the loss of his sister Lilly – and so much more… Everyday – a loving, floppy velvety eared, would play fetch until his legs fell off his body, scared of the dark – boy. We thought we would be able to see him get a lot more grey and a lot older before we had to let him go.
Grief hurts – but there is a silver lining. When you grieve – it lets you know you had the opportunity to love fiercely. I cried so hard my legs gave out and Paul held me up… He was so strong knowing that part of my world was collapsing… but I knew he was loved – he was snuggled – he was and is cherished.
Loss is loss. Grief is grief. Am I healed – no that will take time. But I am honored I was able to be his human. Grief is good… grief means you loved. Grief comes in many different ways for many different people and each person processes differently. While I am currently going through a stage of grief – JOY comes in the morning… I am able to smile – because he brought me so much love and joy – and while I miss him terribly – and will always… his memory lives on!
Today is a struggle – but I will choose to love – for the greatest gift of all is LOVE.
If there was one thing in life that I heard from my dad that stuck with me… it’s this:
“If it’s not fun… it’s not worth doing…”
Now sure there were times when I took that a tiny bit too far:
“School is not fun – must not be worth doing”
“Chores are not fun – must not be worth doing”
“Being an adult isn’t fun – must not be worth doing” O.K. I still say this one sometimes… who wouldn’t…
And there were times I would remind my parents of my dad’s sound advice and they would quickly tell me to get over it and that I took it out of context – to which I would argue some more and never get away with it – but the humored me anyway…
The truth is – there are parts of life that are not fun. But most of life can be if we start to change our mindset. I personally do not LIKE sweating at 4 AM! (Let’s be honest I don’t particularly like to sweat any time of day – but I digress) However I realize that there is a time to work and a time to play… Sure my days start when the alarm goes off at 3:45 AM and depending on if I hit snooze once or twice – I normally get up and to the garage (where my gym is set up) and turn on the news and chug my pre-workout while I stretch and get ready for my lift session…
I love lifting – some love cardio (I am not one of those people)… but I love lifting. I enjoy feeling the burn in my muscles at they start to repair and grow a day after a good lift. I enjoy seeing my body change and become stronger. But I found something that I enjoy doing, it is fun – and it is WORTH doing.
Are there things that you would like to change about yourself? I am a huge advocate for self-love, but there are sometimes that we look at ourselves and WE want the change… not for someone else, but because we want it!
If there is something you would like to change and you are just not sure where to start, feel free to contact me. Let me see how I can help you get started making small changes that can lead to amazing results…
I promise I will not sell you any of the following:
Quick Fix Diet Trends
Juice Cleanses or Fruit Smoothies…
There is no magic behind what I do – it is effort and work… and time!!! But I am here to help you get started! So ask away!
It is true – SPRING IS HERE! And that means that Summer is right around the corner…
This is the time when many of us start to stress about all of the activities that will have us in less clothing and more exposed.
You see we have been in hibernation, we have been cozy, we just finished our last box of Girl Scout Cookies, and we are starting to thaw from being frozen in place. We have been slowly adding yummy things in our diets and keeping them there since Thanksgiving of last year in order to prepare ourselves for the cold weather and we did a fine job of it – Thank you for noticing!
But now we have come to the ugly truth that Summer is right around the corner and we are yet again not prepared…
There is HOPE! You can START NOW… you don’t need a Monday or a Brand New Week or even start of a fresh day to get started. You can start right now.
Maybe you have been drinking an extra diet soda or two in every day that ends in “y”? Just start to take it back a bit…
Maybe you have been not thinking so much about the extra calories those sleeves of thin mints right before bed are adding to your amount consumed? Try only having 2 cookies and not the whole sleeve.
Maybe you have snacking on the excess Halloween Candy (that is probably expired by now) when your stressed or the kids are not looking? You should probably just toss it out…
Maybe you have been having more pizza or processed foods because it is quick and easy instead of making a plan? Take 10-20 min and plan out a menu for the week… what time do you have available to cook the menu you created? Organize your meals by your schedule. Use your crock-pot or instant pot… utilize the tools that you have – and start making healthier choices.
Truth is – we all get there. We all get this way. It happens… but you wanna know a secret? WE ALL CAN START OVER AT ANY MOMENT IN TIME…
That is right… so here is what I want you to do…
Make a list RIGHT NOW of 5 things you are going to do TODAY to make some healthier choices! Do it… Do it… And place it somewhere you can see…
Here are mine:
Add an extra 16 oz of water into my daily intake.
Only snack on whole foods between meals.
Get in 30 min of exercise each day – even if it just a leisure walk with my family.
The Life Stride Fitness Training and MY OWN PERSONAL Motto for 2018: Consistency OVER Perfection…
As any fellow perfectionist knows it is often really hard to be positive about your outcomes when you are not getting things done 100% all of the time. Meaning perfect… all the time. Which is not realistic – but sometimes that is hard to get through to a perfectionist – and I am only speaking on this because I am a perfectionist.
I have personally been following a fitness professional by the name of Mike Vacanti who has been on the fitness grid for many many years and is a huge inspiration to many! He did a year end post on YouTube that he just published this week (you can check out here) and he touched on some of the reasons why focusing on why consistency is more important than perfection… but I wanted to put my own personal spin on why it is my motto for 2018.
Perfectionism has been a killer for me in several things. Perfectionism kills my mental space with thinking that anything I have to say is important and relevant. Perfectionism kills my emotional state thinking that I am not good enough or have enough or amount to enough to have an impact. Perfectionism kills my productivity because I am honed in on completing a task 100% before I am able to move on to the next thing. Perfectionism kills my physicality because if I can’t get a perfect workout in I feel I shouldn’t “waste” the time.
It’s time I start giving myself a little bit of credit.
By staying CONSISTENT and being there for those who are looking to improve their health and wellness, I am making an impact. By staying CONSISTENT in my focus on learning and creating I am proving to myself that I have knowledge and am relevant. By staying CONSISTENT in continuing to work on myself and my goals little by little I am increasing my productivity and value to myself and my employer. By staying CONSISTENT on my goals of movement and not focusing on only working out if I feel the workout is going to be the best workout each time, I increase my physicality and flexibility because showing up and doing something is better than being stagnant and doing nothing.
So this year I am focusing less on the perfection an more on the CONSISTENT…
Every Year at this time we start fresh and make new goals for the new year. If you have been following me on any of the social media platforms I am on – you know that this year I am doing something a little different and making “reverse resolutions”.
What are ‘reverse resolutions”? Well I am glad you asked. They are things that I am planning to not do during the entire year of 2018.
1.) I’m NOT counting a single calorie. For some counting calories and logging food and exercise is very beneficial – and if you are a client – you most likely have this incorporated into your plan. But for me, I am taking away the logging of calories for 2018.
I AM going to focus on BALANCED nutrition – and plan meals accordingly. I was gifted an Instant Pot for Christmas from my lovely parents and cannot wait to use it!
I AM going to make more meals at home and not allow the busy schedules and life take away from the fact that I want to prepare meals for my family and cook nutritious meals – I love to experiment and cook in the kitchen.
2.) I’m NOT weighing myself weekly. I have had a negative relationship with m scale – and while I LOVE my scale… I really do – I don’t like the hold that I have allowed it to have on me and my feelings about who I see in the mirror. (Yes even the strongest fitness professional and model have their own image issues they deal with.)
I AM going to weigh on the 1st of each month – just to have a basis of where I am heading and if I need to tweak anything… and to not obsess over the number.
I AM going to measure myself on the 1st of each month to know where I am and to encourage myself to keep going.
3.) I’m NOT purchasing a paper planner – I wind up filling it all out on Jan 1st but hardly look at it again throughout the rest of the year.
I AM planning on using the tools I have and use daily (my phone, and tablet) to help me manage my time and appointments and stay on top of things better this year than I did last year.
4.) I’m NOT going to post half naked pictures of myself on any social media platforms or make any type of post that may have a negative effect on someone else’s view of themselves.
I AM dedicating my platforms to uplifting and encouraging those around me to continue to move and be active. To seek help when needed and to become the best version of themselves by making small changes daily to make big changes over time…
Those are my “reverse resolutions” for 2018! I would love to know what some of your resolutions are for 2018 and if there is anything I may be able to help you with!
This is me. Post baby, still a little fluffy in the middle, taking my time… me.
Here is what I can tell you… and what I tell almost all of the moms who I train (although this applies to EVERYONE – not just mothers). We weigh once at the beginning and then we put the scale away.
Here is MY why – and the answer is 3 tiered.
A) We weigh at first to know our starting point. We must know where we start to see where we want to go, and the best way to get there. As stated before – no two strides of life are the same – so neither will your fitness and health journey.
B) We put it away so that it is not our main focus. Yes, while I agree that losing weight is a good goal to have – I also know first hand how discouraging that number on the scale can be after trying your hardest, being a new mom, and HOLY HORMONES! So the focus is to get moving – let the movement start to become enjoyable – and worry about the scale later.
C) We celebrate how we feel, and how we are changing. These are called NSV’s … or Non Scale Victories. These are more important than the number on the scale. This is your life improving. This is you getting stronger. This is being able to hold a plank for 5 more seconds than you could before. This is making one more healthier meal choice rather than hitting the drive thru. This is being able to fit into something you have not worn since before you found out you were expecting… THIS IS YOUR LIFE!
We celebrate the things we achieve – not a number on a scale. We encourage one another to continue with greatness! We lean on each other to push through the negative body images and promote the things we love about ourselves.